When You Feel Like You’re Back at Square One
Ever had one of those days where it feels like all your healing just… unraveled?
You’ve been doing the work — journaling, praying, setting boundaries — and then suddenly, out of nowhere, a comment, a memory, or a song brings all the old feelings flooding back. You find yourself reacting, crying, or doubting yourself in ways you thought you’d outgrown.
And that voice in your head whispers, “I thought I was past this.”
Here’s the truth: you’re not back at square one. You’re just revisiting a familiar place from a higher level. Healing isn’t a straight line — it’s a spiral staircase. You circle around old pain, but each time, you meet it with more wisdom, more awareness, and more grace.
Think of it this way — the fact that you notice you’ve been triggered means you’ve already grown. A few years ago, you might’ve stayed stuck there for weeks or months. Now? You’re recognizing it within minutes or hours. That’s not regression, that’s progress.
When those moments hit, pause.
Take a deep breath. Put a hand over your heart and say,
“I’m not starting over… I’m healing.”
Every layer you uncover gives you another chance to meet yourself with compassion instead of criticism. That’s the real healing — not perfection, but presence.
And if you’re a person of faith, remember this: even when it feels like you’re slipping, God hasn’t moved. He’s still right there, walking that spiral with you, turning what feels like a setback into a setup for deeper understanding and freedom.
So next time those old wounds whisper, smile gently and say,
“I see you. But I’ve come a long way since then.”
You’re not losing ground, friend — you’re building it. 💛
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With love and grace,
Misty
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