When Healing Gets Messy: Walking Through the Hard Days
This week has been a hard one for me. The kind of week where old wounds got stirred up and I was face-to-face with triggers I thought I had already dealt with. It was necessary… and it was messy. And honestly? I’m still not all the way through it.
That’s the part of healing no one likes to talk about. The “in-between” space. The middle of the storm when the rain is coming down, but the rainbow hasn’t shown up yet.
Healing Isn’t Linear
We all want healing to look like a straight upward line—do the work, check the boxes, move forward, never look back. But the truth is: healing is more like a spiral. We circle back to the same places, but each time, we’re a little stronger, a little wiser, and a little more equipped to face what’s there.
So when an old trigger rises up, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost progress. It means your heart is inviting you to go a layer deeper.
The Mess is Part of the Process
I used to believe that being “strong” meant holding it together, keeping everything tidy, never letting the cracks show. But real strength? It looks like allowing yourself to cry. It looks like sitting in the discomfort instead of running from it. It looks like admitting, “This is hard, and I don’t have it figured out right now.”
The messy moments are not signs of weakness. They’re evidence that you’re human. And they’re proof that your healing is real, because you’re actually moving through the pain instead of burying it.
You’re Not Alone in the Middle
If you’re in that space right now—the middle of the mess—please know you’re not alone. It may feel lonely, but it doesn’t have to be isolating. We are so quick to compare our behind-the-scenes to other people’s highlight reels, forgetting that everyone struggles with their own storms.
What you’re walking through today could be the very thing that allows you to extend compassion to someone else tomorrow.
Choosing Grace Over Perfection
As I write this, I’m still in my own messy middle. I don’t have a neat bow to tie on the end of this story yet. But maybe that’s the point—healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about giving yourself grace, even when you don’t have the answers yet.
So today, I’m choosing grace. Grace for the tears. Grace for the slow progress. Grace for the fact that I’m still learning how to navigate the hard days.
And if you need the reminder too: you’re allowed to choose grace.
Because healing doesn’t have to look perfect to be real.
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Because your future deserves more than your past has given you. 💛
With love and grace,
Misty
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